The Bear Hug Sex Position is all about closeness, connection, and a tight embrace. It starts with what makes a bear hug a bear hug: a very tight encompassing hug where someone wraps their arms around another person with a firm squeeze.

It’s perfect for couples who want to combine deep penetration with intimate touch. Let’s see how to do 3 variations of the bear hug sex position: lotus, rear, standing.

Lotus Bear Hug Sex Position

How to Do Lotus

1. Get into position. The penetrating partner sits cross-legged (or with legs slightly extended) on the bed. Alternative: Sit on the edge of a chair.

2. Receiving partner straddles their lap, facing them. Legs can either be on the side or wrapped around the back of their partner.

3. Wrap together. Both partners wrap their arms around each other in a tight embrace. Generally the penetracting partner wraps their arms around their partners waist to pull them close providing for deep penetration.

4. Begin movement. Start with gentle rocking motions and synchronized breathing. The position allows for slow, rhythmic grinding rather than fast thrusting.

5. **Maintain contact, kissing, and deep breathing together to enhance the intimate connection.

Tips for Maximum Enjoyment with Lotus

• Focus on slow, sensual movement. This position is designed for tantric-style lovemaking rather than vigorous thrusting.
• Adjust for comfort. If flexibility is limited, the base partner can sit against a wall or headboard for support.

Behind Bear Hug Sex Position

How to Do Behind

1. Position yourselves. Both partners stand facing the same direction, with the receiving partner in front.

2. Receiving partner find your stance. Should lean forward slightly and brace themselves against wall or table.

1 Entry and embrace. The penetrating partner enters from behind while wrapping their arms around their partner’s waist or torso in a tight bear hug embrace. This provides for closeness and control to deeply penetrate their partner.

1 Move together. Use rocking motions and synchronized movement, with the bear hug allowing for full-body contact and control.

Tips for Maximum Enjoyment with Behind

• Use walls or furniture for support. The receiving partner can place hands against a wall, on a bed edge, or counter for stability.
• Focus on the embrace. Keep arms wrapped tightly around your partner throughout to maintain the “bear hug” feeling.
• Vary the angle. The receiving partner can adjust their bend or stance to change depth and sensation.
• Communication is key. Since you’re not face-to-face, use verbal cues and check in regularly about comfort and pleasure. If you have Red Light safe word system, this is a good time to use it.

Standing Bear Hug Sex Position

How To Do Standing

1. Stand facing your partner. The receiving partner stands and raises one leg, bending it as an inviting gesture for the giving partner. They can use a wall, bed, or sturdy surface for support, depending on comfort and height differences.

2. Embrace each other. The giving partner steps in close, wrapping their arms around the receiving partner’s waist or back. The receiving partner can wrap their arms around the giver’s shoulders or neck.

3. Penetration and movement. The giving partner enters from the front, holding the receiving partner in a tight, secure hug. Move together in a slow, sensual rhythm, enjoying the full-body contact, eye contact, and deep connection.

Tips for Maximum Enjoyment with Standing

• Use a wall or bed for extra support and stability. This helps the receiving partner maintain balance while lifting one leg.
• Communicate throughout to ensure both partners are comfortable. Standing positions can be physically demanding, so check in regularly.
• Focus on sensual touch, kissing, and eye contact to heighten intimacy. The face-to-face nature allows for deep emotional connection.
• Adjust the pace and angle for deeper connection and pleasure. The receiving partner can use their lifted leg to control depth and rhythm.
• Consider transitioning to other positions. The standing bear hug works well as a starting point that can move to wall-supported or lifted variations.