The Yes/No/Maybe List is a classic tool recommended by therapists like Lillian Bailey, MFT, to help couples discover, communicate, and respect each other’s sexual interests and boundaries. By categorizing activities as “Want,” “Will,” or “Won’t,” partners can clarify desires, open up conversations, and create a culture of consent and respect.
While this checklist is an excellent starting point for sexual communication, is it enough for couples who want to grow, explore, and connect on a deeper level? Here’s why KnotLove is the next step beyond a static Yes/No/Maybe list.
What Makes the Yes/No/Maybe List Great?
- Simple and Accessible: Easy to fill out and discuss, even for couples new to sexual communication.
- Promotes Consent: Encourages honest conversations about boundaries and desires.
- Widely Recommended: Used by therapists and educators to help couples build trust and understanding.
- Customizable: Can be tailored to each couple’s interests and relationship style.
Where the Yes/No/Maybe List Falls Short
- Static Format: Once completed, the list often sits unused. There’s no built-in encouragement to revisit, update, or expand your exploration.
- No Gamification or Progression: There’s no sense of achievement or ongoing discovery-just a one-time inventory.
- Limited Privacy Controls: Paper or spreadsheet lists can be lost, seen by others, or awkward to update.
- Not Interactive: The process can feel clinical, and there’s no way to celebrate progress or milestones as a couple.
Why KnotLove Is Better
KnotLove takes the core strengths of the Yes/No/Maybe list and transforms them into a living, interactive journey for couples: